Do you have this problem? Are you often around people or in situations that are auto-running at lower vibrational energies to yours and feel completely drained afterwards? I sure do! In fact, Im totally drained right now. I just got back from an errands escapade with the parental unit for a few hours and am completely worn out. I know how this is happening, I know why this is happening, but when they are in my energy space, its like a hurricane just came through the door and Im caught in it, unable to break free. How can I, and anyone else, prevent this from occuring?
Why does this happen? FIrst of all, in my situation, its just one all-encompassing word: EGO. When the ego is allowed to rule and let loose, it automatically blocks the flow of love energy, which is a naturally higher vibrational E. So when you're living so wrapped up in ego-consciousness, you're naturally functioning at a lower vibrational energy, which can be quite tiring for people who are, or are attempting to live at higher vibrational energies like love, peace, joy, etc. For example, competing with other egos, criticising (which makes your ego feel stronger and more "secure" - after all, remember that all of this is just insecurity of the self!), ridiculing others and complaining (either about non-present people or to the people you are with). These activities all lower your energy field and block the flow of love between people. And guess what - I get sucked in to the game also. Why? I honestly dont know, I know Im doing it, buts its bloody hard for me not to!! Part of it is habitual - those nasty habits and ways of being you've developed with certain people, like its programmed in you to act a certain way with those people. Mine is usually aggressiveness, defensiveness and a general negative/sarcastic/critical attitude, which is usually the "status-quo" in my family's way of living and interacting with each other. Unfortunately, my natural state of feeling and being is quite drastically different, as I'm naturally quite a dreamy, positive and idealistic character - which is why its so hard for me to be in that state! So for me, its partly habitual and past programming, partly self-protective behaviour. Generally, criticism does it for me. A few harsh comments and put-downs and I'm easily hurt and running scared, which is just my insecure ego reacting, and in order for it to protect itself, it starts following suit. And as soon as my ego takes over the driving wheel, its bye-bye the higher peaceful vibrational state that I was in before that, when I wasnt controlled by my ego!! See you later, alligator.
How do we stop this from happening? Im still trying to work that out. Im able to control it with most other relationships, but with my family its a grey zone and I'm still very fuzzy. How do you handle your "superiors" (or rather, those that think they are your superiors, for no soul is more superior than another), in a "right and wrong" context (for that doesnt exist either)? I still get sucked into the trap of the "put-downs" and feel the need to put up a defensive negative attitude, which completely drains me of my energy! I usually also get headaches when I'm around people like this, which only makes me even more cranky!
Of course, prevention is better than cure! I know of a few techniques to create "energetic boundaries" to stop yourself from taking in others energy (Im an emotional empath, so this is definitely a reality for me) and preventing energy drain. If you would like to learn more about this, just let me know and I'll probably do another post on this specifically.
But what if we cant prevent, for whatever reason? i.e. we cant act all "higher-vibrational" and cool around some irritated people - that just makes them even more pissed off and likely to start attacking you even further, and it just becomes a vicious cycle! :P Sometimes the techniques i've learnt just aren't practical to my situation or the type of relationship I have. Or, we need to be around energy drainers like members of our family, work colleagues, or random people we meet in day-to-day life? We cant possibly control every single person we spent time and energy with throughout each day - it just doesnt work that way. Of course if we can prevent it, thats great, but what if we cant?
Some of my band-aids to re-raise my E to the happy place again!!! :P
1) Listen to music - does it for me!! And soothing, happy music that re-connects you to your deeper feelings. DONTS: No depressing, unhappy music or music addressing complex emotions and problems please. Im sometimes tempted to get into this, I have slightly masochistic tendencies. Thats all you need right now to keep yourself in a lower vibrational state! Unless you want to be, that is. Then go for it! It can sometimes be quite fun! :P
2) Surround yourself with some inspirational spiritual information thats of a higher frequency - whatever's floating your boat. For example watching some you tube videos or reading some literature on spiritual folk who are working their lives at higher vibrations - for example i just finished watching Doreen Virtue's oracle card of the day video that was posted on my facebook, and it took me back into a place of love and peace, like propping you back up on the mountain where you can observe whats happening clearer and from a higher vantage point. Brought me back to a place of higher understanding. Not saying its "right", its just my understanding; the truth that resonates better with me. :) You can also visit http://spiritlibrary.com and have a snoop around what they've got posted there. I got back to my computer completely flustered and checked my facebook (as you do) and saw the awesome post by Doreen explaining the oracle card "following your dreams", and wonderful Paulo Cohelo posting the comment directly underneath on my news feed "if you can dream you can do". I was also getting heaps of number sequences. Hmm, you think my angels were trying to tell me something? ;-) Damn I love my spirit guides and angels and how they know how to communicate with me. <3
3) Do stuff that you enjoy. That makes you feel good again - about yourself, and about life. Im usually feeling pretty crap about myself after a parental meeting! So I try to do things Im good at - that gives my ego a little boost - after all, we all have egos, and probably will continue to until we ascend to a higher level of consciousness, so take that in your stride and work with it! Just make sure you keep your ego in check, so you dont become one of the energy suckers you're trying so hard to recover from in the first place!!
3) Meditate, if you're up for it. Dont try it if you're totally flustered or worn out though...i usually find no point in meditating when Im in such an emotionally frazzled state. But each to their own, so try it and see, you might be able to raise your vibration that way.
4) Another technique im learning from my psychic awakening course with Anna Conlan is to ask the angels or ascended masters to help you to "raise your vibration" - this is a more "feely" one and a bit more flaky or "woo-woo" for some people, so if you dont believe in angels or higher vibrational entities you might not want to try out this one. :) Just putting it out there as a suggestion though. If you'd like to know more about this just let me know and I'll give you directions. ;) I probably wouldn't do this either though, as I usually have to get my emotions and energy sorted to a certain level before i start communicating with spirit. I guess its just a fear of mine that if im in a really negative vibrational state, I'll attract more negative entities, and if im frazzled or really drained, i probably wont be able to concentrate enough to meditate, or ask the angels for assitance for that matter.
Thats all of my pointers for now. Let me know of other methods you use to raise your vibration - i'd love to hear your thoughts!
Much love, dreamy E and good vibes. ;-)
xoxo
Why does this happen? FIrst of all, in my situation, its just one all-encompassing word: EGO. When the ego is allowed to rule and let loose, it automatically blocks the flow of love energy, which is a naturally higher vibrational E. So when you're living so wrapped up in ego-consciousness, you're naturally functioning at a lower vibrational energy, which can be quite tiring for people who are, or are attempting to live at higher vibrational energies like love, peace, joy, etc. For example, competing with other egos, criticising (which makes your ego feel stronger and more "secure" - after all, remember that all of this is just insecurity of the self!), ridiculing others and complaining (either about non-present people or to the people you are with). These activities all lower your energy field and block the flow of love between people. And guess what - I get sucked in to the game also. Why? I honestly dont know, I know Im doing it, buts its bloody hard for me not to!! Part of it is habitual - those nasty habits and ways of being you've developed with certain people, like its programmed in you to act a certain way with those people. Mine is usually aggressiveness, defensiveness and a general negative/sarcastic/critical attitude, which is usually the "status-quo" in my family's way of living and interacting with each other. Unfortunately, my natural state of feeling and being is quite drastically different, as I'm naturally quite a dreamy, positive and idealistic character - which is why its so hard for me to be in that state! So for me, its partly habitual and past programming, partly self-protective behaviour. Generally, criticism does it for me. A few harsh comments and put-downs and I'm easily hurt and running scared, which is just my insecure ego reacting, and in order for it to protect itself, it starts following suit. And as soon as my ego takes over the driving wheel, its bye-bye the higher peaceful vibrational state that I was in before that, when I wasnt controlled by my ego!! See you later, alligator.
How do we stop this from happening? Im still trying to work that out. Im able to control it with most other relationships, but with my family its a grey zone and I'm still very fuzzy. How do you handle your "superiors" (or rather, those that think they are your superiors, for no soul is more superior than another), in a "right and wrong" context (for that doesnt exist either)? I still get sucked into the trap of the "put-downs" and feel the need to put up a defensive negative attitude, which completely drains me of my energy! I usually also get headaches when I'm around people like this, which only makes me even more cranky!
Of course, prevention is better than cure! I know of a few techniques to create "energetic boundaries" to stop yourself from taking in others energy (Im an emotional empath, so this is definitely a reality for me) and preventing energy drain. If you would like to learn more about this, just let me know and I'll probably do another post on this specifically.
But what if we cant prevent, for whatever reason? i.e. we cant act all "higher-vibrational" and cool around some irritated people - that just makes them even more pissed off and likely to start attacking you even further, and it just becomes a vicious cycle! :P Sometimes the techniques i've learnt just aren't practical to my situation or the type of relationship I have. Or, we need to be around energy drainers like members of our family, work colleagues, or random people we meet in day-to-day life? We cant possibly control every single person we spent time and energy with throughout each day - it just doesnt work that way. Of course if we can prevent it, thats great, but what if we cant?
Some of my band-aids to re-raise my E to the happy place again!!! :P
1) Listen to music - does it for me!! And soothing, happy music that re-connects you to your deeper feelings. DONTS: No depressing, unhappy music or music addressing complex emotions and problems please. Im sometimes tempted to get into this, I have slightly masochistic tendencies. Thats all you need right now to keep yourself in a lower vibrational state! Unless you want to be, that is. Then go for it! It can sometimes be quite fun! :P
2) Surround yourself with some inspirational spiritual information thats of a higher frequency - whatever's floating your boat. For example watching some you tube videos or reading some literature on spiritual folk who are working their lives at higher vibrations - for example i just finished watching Doreen Virtue's oracle card of the day video that was posted on my facebook, and it took me back into a place of love and peace, like propping you back up on the mountain where you can observe whats happening clearer and from a higher vantage point. Brought me back to a place of higher understanding. Not saying its "right", its just my understanding; the truth that resonates better with me. :) You can also visit http://spiritlibrary.com and have a snoop around what they've got posted there. I got back to my computer completely flustered and checked my facebook (as you do) and saw the awesome post by Doreen explaining the oracle card "following your dreams", and wonderful Paulo Cohelo posting the comment directly underneath on my news feed "if you can dream you can do". I was also getting heaps of number sequences. Hmm, you think my angels were trying to tell me something? ;-) Damn I love my spirit guides and angels and how they know how to communicate with me. <3
3) Do stuff that you enjoy. That makes you feel good again - about yourself, and about life. Im usually feeling pretty crap about myself after a parental meeting! So I try to do things Im good at - that gives my ego a little boost - after all, we all have egos, and probably will continue to until we ascend to a higher level of consciousness, so take that in your stride and work with it! Just make sure you keep your ego in check, so you dont become one of the energy suckers you're trying so hard to recover from in the first place!!
3) Meditate, if you're up for it. Dont try it if you're totally flustered or worn out though...i usually find no point in meditating when Im in such an emotionally frazzled state. But each to their own, so try it and see, you might be able to raise your vibration that way.
4) Another technique im learning from my psychic awakening course with Anna Conlan is to ask the angels or ascended masters to help you to "raise your vibration" - this is a more "feely" one and a bit more flaky or "woo-woo" for some people, so if you dont believe in angels or higher vibrational entities you might not want to try out this one. :) Just putting it out there as a suggestion though. If you'd like to know more about this just let me know and I'll give you directions. ;) I probably wouldn't do this either though, as I usually have to get my emotions and energy sorted to a certain level before i start communicating with spirit. I guess its just a fear of mine that if im in a really negative vibrational state, I'll attract more negative entities, and if im frazzled or really drained, i probably wont be able to concentrate enough to meditate, or ask the angels for assitance for that matter.
Thats all of my pointers for now. Let me know of other methods you use to raise your vibration - i'd love to hear your thoughts!
Much love, dreamy E and good vibes. ;-)
xoxo